(Damien Meldrum is an Author, speaker and Emotional Kinesiologist and Coach. He is available for coaching via skype or live at his rooms in Kirra beach, Australia.)
This story is a summary of the general observations that I have observed after treating clients for the past three years as an Emotional Kinesiologist. It is also the pattern of our society as a whole. When enough individuals change this pattern it will result in a new earth.
We are deeply sensitive, feeling creatures. Every cell in our body draws information from our environment and sends data into our processing unit. Every hair on our body is an antenna, linked to the protein receptors of our individual cells. We are subconsciously processing data non stop. There is a whole world going on inside of us that we are not consciously aware of. This is our nature.
When our hearts are open to feeling the full intensity of life, we feel each others pains and we feel each others triumphs. Emotions are designed to flow through us easily and teach us something. But because of the intense stories that are being played out in the world today, we have moved away from listening to these feelings and have instead become obsessed with our thoughts. We live in the mind.
Instead of allowing ourselves to feel these feelings and let them move through our bodies, we store these emotions in the cells of our body. Many emotions are considered inappropriate in our society, so we ignore them and store them. Our bodies are amazing and can hold on to so many emotions, but eventually they build up and we begin to feel anxious, frustrated or depressed. One way or another, our system lets us know that we are overloaded. Serious physical symptoms result.
Ignoring our feelings, we turn to our thoughts. These thoughts are shaped by the media and by all the fear based information that is spreading through this world like a virus. Living in the world of our thoughts has taken us to a place of low self esteem. We have become convinced that our worth is directly equated to money, success, good looks and material worth. We have closed our hearts in pursuit of these goals.
Deep inside we have developed a longing. We convince ourselves that this longing is for success and wealth. But really this longing is for connection with others, connection with our true selves. We are in denial of our true longing, we are in denial of our true self.
Because of this state of denial we push things away. We have a rejection mechanism that rejects whatever doesn’t match our minds ideas of success. We are using the measuring stick of our mind to make choices as opposed to the innate wisdom of our hearts.
This imbalance between what our heart desires and what our mind tells us we need, has led to the development of feelings such as worry and anxiety. They are an epidemic in our current world. They cause us to withdraw from life. They are born in the mind. Their symptoms are racing thoughts, sleepless nights and feelings of discomfort. They often result in people taking medications. These medications add to the cycle of disconnecting from our feelings.
Deep inside each and every one of us, we hold a need for love and attention. In its natural state this is a beautiful energy. In our current needy and anxious society, this energy is out of balance and what we end up attracting is more neediness rather than love. As we forget how to love ourselves, we begin to search for it outside. Like a child we seek and crave attention, positive or negative we don’t care. We all crave attention.
This results in diverted energy. Needing to look outside of ourselves for love and attention, we give away some of our power. Instead of connecting with people on an even level, we give away our energy and imbalance results. We begin to feel unworthy of other peoples love, we feel a lack of self worth.
Feelings of guilt and shame await us all on this pathway. We feel ashamed that we cannot remain in our power during interactions with others. We feel ashamed that we cannot love others unconditionally. Shame is an emotion that we cannot function in, so we shut down. We desire to escape reality and to feel invisible when shame appears.
The desire to escape reality manifests itself in many different behaviours. It can become a way of life. We eat, we drink, we smoke, we day dream, we fantasise, we eat some more. We escape wherever and whenever we can.
In an attempt to counterbalance behaviours that may be viewed by others as bad, we seek perfection. We exercise, we diet, we work harder. Our behaviour can become obsessive and repetitive. In the search to escape our faults we begin to crave perfection.
When we inevitably fall tired from these attempts at perfecting our life, we begin to judge ourselves. We can never attain perfection in the sense that the mind wants. The mind keeps moving the goal. The mind is simply offering the possibility of what is not there. When we fall for the trap of measuring according to the rules of the mind, we develop self hatred.
Society reinforces these messages that we are not good enough with a constant barrage of advertising and images that clearly show we don’t measure up. Self loathing and lack of self respect is another epidemic in our society that results in all sorts of imbalances and medications.
This lack of self respect results in people becoming emotionally disengaged. And on some level, we have all disengaged to some degree. It is simply unsafe to open your heart completely in this world. Very few people do it. It is a lifelong journey to open your heart. Re engaging with emotions is the key to healing this planet. It can only happen one person at a time.
Disengaging from our emotions is a sure way to repel life. When we are emotionally disengaged, we are stopping the experience of life. Instead of attracting beautiful and joyous experiences, we are repelling them. Because it is occurring on a subconscious level, we can become upset at life. We wonder “why isn’t life working out for me?”
When people ask this question they actually develop a need for revenge against life.
This need for revenge is of course played out against other people. We see examples of this on all different levels in society. People punish each other through gossip, teasing, arguments, passive aggression, road rage, fighting, stealing, rape, murder and all sorts of despicable behaviours.
The world is out of balance.
When we behave in ways that are not loving, we also find it hard to accept love. Giving and receiving are energies that operate on the same pathway. So when we find it hard to give love, we find it hard to receive love.
In moments where we want to love, but are finding it difficult, we feel emotionally isolated. We look at the world through frosted glass and cannot express what we truly want to say. This leads to another epidemic in this current earth pattern. Loneliness. This is an imbalance of epic proportions. Crazy in a world of seven billion people.
The lonelier we become, the more afraid of being hurt by others we become. We begin to protect ourselves against hurt with many defence mechanisms. We develop protective layers to insulate us against hurt. Ultimately we become numb. Numbness is the ultimate defence against love. It is a fear of love.
It allows us to survive in a limited way. Limited in relation to our true self, our ultimate potential. Numbness provides us with a false sense of security. It provides a bubble in which to live. We cannot feel true love, we cannot give true love, but we can survive. At least we think we can.
Eventually life catches up with us. Our true self is a spirit that animates this body, so it is always with us. The gap between our true self and this numb experience that the human self has created becomes exposed. A sense of inner hopelessness evolves.
The loss of emotion and confusion around emotion swirls around deep within our soul. We become desperate to maintain control. But we are attempting to control something completely beyond our control. This leads to us feeling scattered, not really knowing what to do.
We live life with a sense of prolonged uncertainty. Not really sure of what will happen or whether things will work out. A feeling of impending doom looms large at the far reaches of the human mind. We do not like this sense of doom. Whenever it arises, we close our mind. We block the flow of thoughts.
Unfortunately when we block thoughts by closing our mind, we also block new ideas. And if the mind is useful for one thing, it’s generating new ideas. When we block new ideas we trap ourselves into the world that has already been. Going over and over old thoughts is an obsession. It creates a sense of dread. Dread that there is nowhere new to go.
When new ideas or new opportunities arrive in life, we are unable to assimilate them properly when trapped in the earth pattern. A closed mind is unable to assimilate new information and nor can it make decisions. Indecisiveness is an energy that makes us feel trapped. We feel like we need space, so we push people away from us.
When we create space around us and push the ones we love away from us we create anxiety about the future. There is a sense of disappointment in our behaviour and in the behaviour of others. We develop bitterness towards life for not working out straight. Bitterness towards life leads to greed. We search for sweetness in ‘things.’
The search for sweetness plays out in many different ways. Shopping incessantly for items that we do not need. Eating foods that serve no purpose to the healthy functioning of our bodies. Constantly searching for that next item of clothing or furniture that will make us feel good. The search for sweetness is never ending.
In the search for things, greed is the next epidemic that is causing major imbalances in this life. It can be seen everywhere from the playground to the skyscraper. Like children snatching for toys, everyone is looking to acquire. Altering human behaviour and bringing out the worst in people across the globe, greed is a major source of dis-ease.
Ultimately greed leads to emptiness. We can never fill this cup. We are as far away from our true self as possible when we experience emptiness. We feel deprivation. Completely deprived of the energy that we truly crave. Love. In a final attempt to survive, we lie to ourselves. We soothe ourselves by saying that ‘everything is alright.’ We lie to each other as well, to keep the illusion going.
We keep working, we keep shopping, we keep planning the next holiday. We compare our toys, our homes and our holidays. We feel good when ours are better than other peoples. We feel bad when they don’t measure up. We look around and wonder when the next good thing will come along.
This is where we are at as a society. We are living a life that falls well short of our true potential. We have a lot of room to love more. As a society we are living in a way that is disconnected from our deepest desires. We have been steered into a lifestyle that is completely focussed on the attainment of possessions. This is not what our hearts crave.
Our desires are for peace and harmony. The human heart desires deep connection with the world that we live in. We are designed to experience the depth of this amazing universe. It is time to reclaim our true nature. It is time to reconnect to our feelings and to create our life in honour of them.
First we have to acknowledge where we are at right now. Awareness of the pattern that we are living in is the first step. Taking the time to look around and understand why the world is so out of balance. Having the courage to look at your own life and see where you can be more loving. Taking responsibility for your part in this picture of life, this is where we need to be.
Where we are going….. well that’s a matter of choice.